A Message To My Niece

           

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

From 1995 Archives

 

    I am a very fortunate person.  I have many wonderful people in my life.   The youngest one is a little girl that I share a very special bond with; my three year-old niece.  Even at this tender age, she’s her own person.  As a matter of fact, I think she’s been her own person since the night she was born.  She’s smart, funny, sensitive and has more stamina than the Energizer Bunny.          

            On a recent afternoon while she was visiting she asked me about someone who had died.  After gently but truthfully answering her questions as to how and why this person had died, I began thinking about other questions she’ll have as she grows.   What follows are some of the thoughts I’ve had about what I want her to know.

• If you believe in yourself other people will believe in you too.
• Realize that being healthy, smart, attractive and from a good family that loves you, entitles you to nothing; but obligates you to those less fortunate.
• You deserve to be treated the same way that you treat others.
• Men have feelings too, and men of quality aren’t threatened by women’s equality.
• Don’t try to rationalize with irrational people–they’ll only make you crazy too.
• Don’t sweat the small stuff–the big stuff alone is enough dehydrate you.
• Celebrate the differences between people–those differences are what make each of us special and unique.
• Nobody ever sat on their death bed saying, “I wish I spent more time at the office.”
• Always remember that you have the right to say “no”.
• Yes, it’s your body; but you have a responsibility to keep it drug free and healthy.
• You can’t be true to anyone else unless you’re true to yourself.
•  Every child is born innocent with the God-given right to opportunity and happiness; do what you can in your lifetime to help the world’s children.
• Fight for what’s right, but pick those fights carefully.
• Have the courage to be who you are and respect other people’s rights to do the same.
• A collection of real friends is the greatest wealth you can acquire.
• Realize that if you can be bought, you aren’t worth what the other person paid.
• Never give up; quitters automatically lose.
• Appreciate your parents for who they are; forget who you wish them to be.
• Turn the other cheek when you can, and walk away when you can’t
• If it’s not worth working for, why would you want it?
• We taught your “please” and “thank you” for a reason.
• Try to see the glass as half full and if it turns out to be half empty, top it off.
• The only one who can limit your ambition is you.
• Take the time to learn about and appreciate the wonderful women in history and in your life who have come before you, then emulate them where you can for those who follow.
• Don’t ever lose sight of the fact that everything happens for a reason–although at the time it       may not seem that way.
• Never do anything that you can’t tell your best friend about or say out loud while looking in a mirror.
• Everyone gets what’s coming to them; it’s not your job to facilitate it.
• Just because everyone else is doing something, doesn’t mean that it is the right thing to do.
• You should be the only person who can effect your self-esteem.
• Be grateful for what you have and share what you can.
• Prudent risk-taking will bring you much; taking stupid risks will cost you everything.
• Laugh at what you can and cry at what you have to, it will get you over the rough spots.
• And most importantly; remember that I love you more every day I know you.

 

Copyright Ó 1995, 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll

A Special Meaning To Independence Day

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

From:  1995 Archives

 

This Fourth of July I learned a new meaning of what independence truly means, and how fleeting it could be for each of us.

 

            My mother and I had gone to see the early showing of “The Bridges of Madison County”; a film that left most of the audience in tears.  It was a sensitive, moving and compassionate tale that touched most of us who have seen it.

 

            What moved me most that afternoon however, wasn’t what happened on the movie screen.  The emotions most people took away that afternoon are different than the ones I left with.  What I carry with me, happened in the ladies room, not in the movie theater.

 

            When I entered the rest room there were two women patiently helping a disabled man wash his hands at one of the sinks.  He was, I found out later, the brother of one of the women, and my guess is, the son of the other.  I gave their presence in the ladies room no special thought, because it was only natural that the women had brought him there since–the women’s presence in the men’s facilities would have been rather disruptive.  There were other women present at the time, but they seemed to be in a hurry to be somewhere.

 

            When the aforementioned trio was walking out, I was standing at a sink washing my hands. The young gentleman caught my eye and I replied with my trademark casual, “Hi, how’ya doing?”  Although his speech was impaired, he responded with a “hi” of his own, and the three of them departed.

 

            A moment later as I was leaving, the man’s sister came back into the ladies room, and stopped me.  With tears in her eyes, she said she wanted to thank me for saying “hi” to her brother.  It meant a lot to him, and to her.  She explained that six or seven years ago he was injured when, while running a fever, he slipped and fell in the shower.  His brain was deprived of oxygen for a period of time and he was left with a serious disability; although he still knows what’s going on around him.

 

            The woman told me how good she felt when people were nice to him.  Those of you who know me, know that I am rarely if ever at a loss for words–and as my best friend kindly informed me while proofing this article–that I’m nice to no one!  In this situation however, words failed me.  How do you respond to someone who has just expressed sincere and touching gratitude to you for doing nothing? 

 

            Treating someone with courtesy and dignity isn’t anything extraordinary that I or anyone should have to be thanked for.  It should be the rule–not the exception.  However, it appears that in this family’s life, and probably in those of many other people with disabilities, this behavior is extraordinary.

 

            In retrospect, those other women in the rest room weren’t in as much a hurry to get back to a movie, as they were to get out of the room.  Was it because there was a man in there?  Or was it more likely, because there was a mentally disabled person of either gender in there? 

 

            Why is it that we as a society are so uncomfortable around anyone who is different  from “us”?  Is it because as children many of us were taught not to “stare” at people who were different, because it was rude?”  Personally, I don’t think there is anything rude about a child’s curiosity.  It’s not disrespectful; it’s open and honest.  Unlike many adults, when a child asks a question, they don’t infer a judgment with it.  And children don’t pretend they don’t see people who are standing right in front of them…That is rude! 

 

            We can learn a lot from the innocence of children.  Kids are open and honest enough to ask questions instead of making assumptions.  “Mamma, why is that lady using sticks to walk?”  Or, “Daddy, why is that man sitting in a go-cart?” By telling them they shouldn’t be asking such things, or scolding them for doing so, we send a message to the next generation, that for some reason it’s not all right to be different.  Their parents’ discomfort inadvertently conveys that one is supposed to feel uncomfortable around people with disabilities.

 

              While the question may momentarily surprise the parent, it’s probably not something that the person with the disability hasn’t heard before.  I’m sure that lady knows she’s on crutches and that it is no news to the man that he’s in a wheel chair.  However, when we as adults show discomfort at being around people who are disabled we are displaying the true disabilities of this society–ignorance and intolerance.

 

            People are different.  Some people have mental disabilities, some have physical disabilities and others have social disabilities.  How many of us would like to be in a room full of people and have most of them pretend that we weren’t there.  What’s ironic that many people who have been disabled for all of their lives, probably think that most of the rest of the world is socially retarded.  After all, that’s the way most people behave around them and it would be a natural conclusion for them to make.

 

            Maybe some folks feel uncomfortable around people with  disabilities because they’re afraid “it” could happen to them; the family I met is certainly testimony to that. 

 

            Is there a person out there who hasn’t slipped in the shower?  Were you just lucky or blessed enough to catch yourself?  What about next time? 

 

            So when you see a person with a disability, realize that indeed it could be you.  Treat them as if they were just like you; were it not for a single moment in time they would be, and at some moment in your future, tragically it could be.

 

Copyright Ó 1995, 2008  by Cheryl Tully Stoll

Diet Plans Feed An Industry

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

From 2006 Archives

 

Estimates suggest that diet industry revenues this year will be $40 billion as we continue to pile on the pounds. Just for comparison, McDonald’s only did $20 billion in revenue in 2005. That $40 billion figure does beg the questions: how effective is the diet industry, and are its players just taking advantage of a serious public health threat?

Candy company Nestle’s recent announcement of their intent to purchase Jenny Craig suggests Nestle is trying to have its cake and eat it too. The weight loss business has had an annual revenue growth rate of 14 percent over the last five years; it’s unfortunate that trend is directly opposite the movement Americans are seeing on their bathroom scales. As diet company profits continue to grow, so does America’s waistline. If these diets were truly effective, wouldn’t our belts be looser and our pant sizes smaller?

There are a plethora of diets and plans to choose from. They’ve been named after beaches, cities, people, foods, things that sound like chemical compounds and voyeurs. They come in the form of centers, meetings, books, on-line activities and you name it. You can’t open a women’s magazine without finding diet advice of one kind or other — even advice on how to look thinner without ever losing a pound.

The one name that seems to be missing however is the Yo-Yo Diet. That is what most people end up doing when they try to follow one of these plans. It means that many folks initially lose weight then gain most, all or more back.

There are plenty of people who achieve short-term success with diets and even some others who are able to manage it for the long haul. The problem is that going on “a diet,” implies an event, not a lifestyle change. It makes sense that if we reduce our caloric intake and increase our exercise level that we will lose weight. The problem is that many people, even when they do reach their goal weight, revert back to their former habits. After all, “the event” is over, how long can the average person afford to continue to pay fees for membership or to buy special foods? It’s expensive and very inconvenient.

Some physicians and nutrition professionals concede that out of the major diets and diet programs available Weight Watchers has one of the better models. Unfortunately, when researching this piece I learned something very troubling. On their financial information Internet home page Weight Watchers states that members “have historically demonstrated a consistent re-enrollment pattern across many years.” Their marketing page, on an entirely separate Web site coincidentally, only talks about successes. A quote from that page says, “Coaching and real-life insights to help you lose weight and keep it off.”

It’s interesting how they tell prospects one thing, but boast to potential investors that so many people fail to keep the weight off that those souls provide an annuity stream of repeat business. Given this fact, it should come as no surprise that the Weight Watchers brand had worldwide sales of over $3 billion in 2005 alone. I wonder what that equates to in the cost per pound that was permanently lost?

According to their 2005 annual report, NutriSystem had 52,000 new customer starts in 2004 and 347,000 in 2005. Note that they use the word “starts.” Sounds like some repeat business to me. And it obviously works for them. The company had total net revenues of $213 million in 2005, which was an increase of 459 percent from the previous year and net income of $21 million, which was almost 2000 percent higher than in 2004. Not too shabby for a brand that they just began “reawakening” in 2003; however I’m sure it was a rude awakening for some of their clients no doubt.

            If you look at NutriSystems advertising, it’s not hard to figure out how they garner new clientele. They run the famous before and after photo ads. What I want to see a diet program do is run a before photo, an after photo and then a three-years-after photo. That’s true testimony to lasting weight loss.

And speaking of true testimony, I was very interested to learn that after each of these tremendously motivational success vignettes, there was a small asterisk that appeared. When I went to the bottom of the two-page ad, I found that the asterisk meant, “Results not typical.” Translated into English, this phrase means, we’re only interested in clients who look at the pictures and can’t read. Yep, I’d be hot to hand over money to a company that prowls for customers with such mind-bending integrity.

Their ads also say, “Eat free for a week!” Obviously there are still people out there who haven’t realized that there’s no such thing as a free lunch. As a matter of fact, in 2005 NutriSystem found 347,000 of them.

Unfortunately going on a diet implies temporary behavior modification instead of permanent lifestyle change. Healthy eating and physical fitness shouldn’t be events, they should be the way we live our lives. If you read the medical literature on weight loss and fitness, the majority of it recommends lifestyle changes, not diets, for permanent success. This fact makes LA Weight Loss’s value statement on their home page, “With LA Weight Loss, you lose the weight, not the lifestyle,” just a little incongruous.

Privately held LA Weight Loss claims 700 centers worldwide. They also claim “easy, effective, affordable weight loss.” You’d think if it were that “easy” to lose weight their way, they’d have at least as many centers as McDonald’s has restaurants (30,000).

I’d be remiss if I concluded this piece without mentioning the fad diets that have been sweeping the nation for the last 35 plus years.

Diets of the past include Scarsdale, Grapefruit, Pritikin, Ice Cream, Stillman, the ghoulish Blood Type Diet and the Cabbage Soup Diet. I remember when I was in high school the whole neighborhood tried the Cabbage Soup Diet for a week. I don’t think anyone who lost weight actually kept it off, but the entire neighborhood is now located 50 feet north of where it was when the diet began.

Recent diets include Atkins, South Beach, Dr. Phil, Slim-Fast, The Zone and lest me not forget the Kellogg’s Special K diet plan. It seems their pinching-an-inch diet didn’t work out as well as planned; so now that folks can grab a couple of fists full, they’re back at it.

So, if the diet industry wins $40 billion in revenue this year compared to McDonald’s $20 billion last year and people get even heavier next year, who loses?

 

Copyright Ó 2006, 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll

Sports Drinks Have Little Benefit

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

From 2006 Archives

 

We’ve all seen the attractive hard, tanned, sweaty bodies consuming sports drinks in television ads.

The image these ads try to project is that the consumption of these beverages can help everyone look buff. The reality, however, is that most of those wonderfully sculpted physiques are the result of years of hard exercise and healthy eating — like many other things, it’s not as easy as advertisers would have us believe.

As a matter of fact, these drinks aren’t necessarily as good for us as plain old water. A letter sent in April by a plethora of leading health professionals and organizations to The Institute of Medicine, outlined some warnings regarding the use of sports drinks in schools. These warnings are probably applicable to all of us, school-age or not.

The 44 professionals who signed this letter and the 37 well-known health organizations that endorsed the document stated that “since most students do not participate in 60-minute high-intensity workouts during school hours, we encourage your committee to recommend that sports drinks not be sold or served in schools during the school day.”

Unfortunately, the agreement between the Clinton Foundation and the soft drink industry that is supposed to remove sodas from school vending machines does not include the removal of sports drinks from high schools. Since sports drinks are the fastest growing category of beverages and the largest source of new profits for the soft drink industry, I can’t help but wonder if this omission is just a mere coincidence.

Looking closely at many of these drinks, the ingredients aren’t much healthier than those in soft drinks and in some cases even less so. They are for the most part lower in calories than regular sodas, but they still contain a significant number of calories in the form of sugar, and in many cases, much more sodium than found in the beverages proposed for removal. Additionally, the acids contained in these drinks have been proven by studies in multiple countries to erode tooth enamel.

When vending machine slots open up in schools as sodas are removed, administrators must be careful that the beverages they replace them with represent appropriate and better health choices, not just popular drinks. The consumption of excess sugar has been shown to lead to overweight and obese children with a higher chance of developing Type 2 Diabetes.

Type 2 Diabetes developed in childhood can break down the human body as badly as Type 1. This damage can include blindness, kidney failure and cardiovascular diseases. Unfortunately, one out of every three children born since the year 2000 are now projected to develop Type 2 Diabetes due to lifestyle, and we need to stem this tide.

Sports drinks were initially developed for high-endurance athletes who participated in consecutive hours of hard exercise and needed to replenish fluids and electrolytes. For these athletes, sports drinks can be helpful, but for the rest of the population they tend to be overkill or just a bad idea. Sure, we think we look cool swigging these drinks like the folks on television, but as teenage cigarette smoking has proven, cool isn’t necessarily healthy.

And before anyone overreacts and says that smokers and overweight and obese individuals are at different levels of risk, an article in the Journal of the American Medical Association in March 2004 projected that poor diet and physical inactivity may soon overtake smoking as the leading cause of death in this country. Two-thirds of American adults are overweight or obese, and we need to do everything we can do to prevent our children from continuing to add to this appalling statistic.

Sports drinks can’t be blamed for this trend, but like other sugar-laden foods and beverages, they certainly can be fairly viewed as a contributory factor.

Additionally, sodium is a known contributor to high blood pressure, which physicians are now seeing in younger and younger children. The long-term health consequences for these kids are very serious and can be tragic.

So, while advertising from the beverage industry would have us believe one thing, the medical community is rapidly learning otherwise. When people are trying to make a healthy choice, it’s only fair that the choice really be healthy. It’s rather unfair to lead someone to believe that consuming a particular product will help them in their quest for fitness when in fact that product could be negating the calories they just burned during a hard workout. No wonder so many dieters get discouraged.

Since Gatorade is the most well-known brand in this category, I looked at a bottle of their original formula in the 32-ounce size that the athletes in television advertisements are drinking. According to their Web site, the smallest size is a 12-ounce bottle; the 32-ounce bottle, however, says a single serving size is 8 ounces. There’s nothing like food and beverage manufacturers being straightforward on serving sizes. With some products it takes a degree in differential calculus to figure out what a small package actually contains nutritionally.

The caloric intake of the smallest bottle of Gatorade’s original formula was 75 calories. Doing the same calculations on the 32-ounce bottle that the studs and babes are swigging on television, I came up with 200 calories. What this means in plain English is that if you were to consume one bottle a day, each day for a year, you would gain nearly eight pounds from the 12-ounce version and almost 21 pounds from the sexy television version.

Somehow, after learning that, the products didn’t seem that sexy after all.

 

Copyright Ó 2006, 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll

Weighty Problem For America’s Youth

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

From 2006 Archives

 

Two of every three American adults are overweight or obese according to The Centers for Disease Control, and another study claims that a double-digit percentage of these people believe that they are at a healthy weight. While the overall statistics regarding the epidemic sweeping this nation are frightening, the denial associated with problem is very disconcerting and comes in all forms.

            We have overweight individuals not believing they are, and various causes being cited that are all someone else’s problem. Blame is being thrown all over: the fast food industry, the soft drink industry, the general food industry, school lunches, school fundraisers, television advertising, sedentary lifestyles, lack of time, lack of physical exercise, the diet industry, cultural mores, self-indulgence, poor parenting and believe it or not, wealth and poverty simultaneously.

            No matter where we look there is a finger being pointed, but rarely will you find anyone taking any real responsibility for the problem or making a sincere effort to solve it. There are groups working to solve the problem, but there are not nearly enough of them. Some would say that the explosion of the diet and fitness industry during the last 20 years is an attempt at a solution, but as diet industry revenues continue to grow, so do waistlines.

Estimates suggest that diet industry revenues this year will be $40 billion as Americans continue to pile on the pounds. That does beg the question: how effective is this industry and is it just taking financial advantage of a very serious health problem?

Candy company Nestle’s recent announcement of their intent to purchase Jenny Craig, the last privately-held diet giant, suggests Nestle is trying to have its cake and eat it too. The weight loss business has had an annual revenue growth rate of 14 percent each of the last five years; it’s unfortunate that trend is directly opposite the trend Americans have seen on their bathroom scales. Both sets of numbers are growing rapidly, but if the first were truly effective, the second would be declining.

While childhood obesity statistics are making headlines of their own, obesity doesn’t just affect our children; it is an epidemic ravaging our society as a whole and it’s a war we are losing. A study, quoted in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) in March of 2004, predicted that poor diet and physical inactivity might soon overtake tobacco as the leading cause of death in this country. This same article quoted various studies that estimated that between 400,000 and 600,000 deaths each year are caused by these same preventable factors.

It’s not much of a leap to guess just how many illnesses and injuries exist in our population today, that are caused by these preventable behaviors. Among them are heart disease, diabetes, strokes, high blood pressure, joint ailments, cancers and many others. As a matter of fact, each of the few conditions listed here generates further serious health complications.

Instead of taking steps to properly address a public health issue that left unchecked could lead to the collapse of our medical system, government leaders have chosen to enlarge the size of uniforms to accommodate extra girth instead of stopping the spread of the spread.

            Most of our schools continue to serve lunch and breakfast items that by most definitions barely qualify as nutrition; physical education has become an afterthought due to increased academic requirements; and our governments fail to fund adequate after school programs that encourage physical activity to compensate for the loss of gym time.

Parents refuse to police what their children eat, and the mindless box that is called television conspires with home computers and video games to keep America’s children from playing outside and getting the fresh air and physical exercise their growing bodies need.

Sometimes folks claim they are taking some responsibility to stem the rising tide, but when we look closely they’re really not doing what they want us to believe they are.

The beverage industry’s agreement recently to remove sugar-laden soft drinks and other unhealthy beverages from our schools is a good first step in what needs to be a national initiative to improve the health and weight of our nation’s children. Unfortunately that ban doesn’t go far enough, because it still allows sugar-filled sport drinks, which studies have shown erode tooth enamel and contain a lot of sodium, to be distributed in high schools. The variety and flavors of these drinks may even increase in schools, as slots in vending machines become available when the sodas are removed.

Conveniently, the sport drink category is the fastest growing for the beverage industry and is responsible for tremendous profits. Is the fact that these drinks weren’t included in the ban a mere coincidence? I don’t think so. There is also some skepticism among experts about whether the plan will actually be implemented at all – time will tell.

Wendy’s is eliminating the Biggie and Great Biggie size soft drinks from their menu, according to news reports. This is being done because Wendy’s says customers were confused by the sizes (after nearly 15 years). However, they won’t be downsizing the beverages. They will just now call the Great Biggie a Large. The new Large size will be the equivalent of over three cans of soda (approximately 42 ounces). And what’s worse is that the size that was a medium will in the future be labeled a small. Wendy’s made this “clarification” by burying it after they announced they would switch to healthier frying oils.

Their public relations gamble paid off; most news outlets picked up the healthy frying oils story and neglected the other. The chain will also be doing similar re-labeling to avoid “confusion” with their fries as well. I’m sure this will go a long way toward helping Americans right-size their thighs.

While sodas will hopefully be removed from schools and Wendy’s will switch to healthier frying oils, these are very small steps in what is an extended marathon to improve health and dietary habits in this nation. Medical researchers clearly see disaster on the horizon, but much of the general public and many of our elected leaders fail to give more than lip service to the public health threat this country is facing.

Government action is only part of the solution however. Personal responsibility is the most critical component in dodging the tsunami that is heading our way. A National Institute for Health study estimates that if trends continue, average life expectancy could decline by five years because of obesity. Are we going to be the first generation whose children who don’t live longer than we do?

Children develop their eating habits at home. When this includes balanced meals and healthy snacks in moderation, children tend to have healthier weights. When family lifestyles lean toward activities that get children up and moving instead of sitting in front of one video terminal or another, children tend to weigh less.

We all know the teenage years are a crapshoot where diet is concerned. During this period, teens’ eating and exercise habits are excessively influenced by peers and peer-involved activities. Keeping healthy foods handy at home for teens on the run is one way to help mitigate this lack of dietary control. Saving a plate with a healthy meal for a teen who misses dinner gives that hungry teenager an opportunity for a balanced meal that might otherwise be satiated by anything they can put their hands on when they come home “starving.”

While we can’t control teenage eating habits as we’d like to, we can control those of younger children and eventually, those children will revert back to these habits later in life. These are basic fundamentals, but they are critically important to the future of this generation.

Type 2 diabetes, commonly known as adult-onset diabetes, is a very serious disease, and lack of proper nutrition and exercise is a major contributor. Developed at young age, this disease will destroy the human body just as Type 1 will. Taking a pill does not make it go away.

Studies now predict that one out of every three children born since the year 2000 is expected to develop Type 2 diabetes. This fact alone should be enough to scare society into taking serious action. If you are the parent of three children, which one will get diabetes? If you have six grandchildren, which two will become diabetic? We are sitting on a time bomb that only we can diffuse, and the clock is ticking. One out of three – there’s not much room for margin of error, is there?

 

Copyright Ó 2006, 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll

Call Monitoring Travesty

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

From 2006 Archives

 

Well, well, well. George W. Bush and friends have been monitoring my phone calls.  I certainly hope I’ve done my job as a good American and provided them with sufficient entertainment.

 

Boy, am I glad that I don’t cheat on my husband—or vice versa.

 

I am concerned however that if they run their phone surveillance as well as they run
FEMA, the CIA and the rest of government that they’ve probably missed something juicy.  So just in case, I’m going to copy all our phone records from our home phones and cell phones for the last six years and send them to The Whitehouse so they can double check and make sure that they have COMPLETELY violated our privacy and rights as citizens instead of just partially violating those rights. 

 

There are certain footnotes that I will have to include however.  I no longer speak with the person at area code 419, she couldn’t deliver Ohio for the Democrats, so what good is she?

 

If my employer is reading this, the phone call I made to the human resources department of that other company was just a wrong number.  (Oooops)

 

And in case my fellow Democrats are concerned, my friend in area code 407 has switched from an R to a D so she’s ok.

 

And members of the Peeping Tom Eves Dropping Taskforce, just in case you’re wondering, the calls I made to California and New Jersey the weekend after 911 were to see how my Persian and Lebanese friends were doing with all the anti-Arab backlash after the attacks.  Despite the stereotypes, both are American Citizens and neither are terrorists.

 

And yes, I’m sure you will notice that I screen some of my in-laws calls.  When you’re done examining everyone’s records you will see that I am not the only person in America who does this.

 

The 900 number was a mistake—all three times.  (Oooops again)

 

And yes, my husband and I do tend to enjoy take out food on occasion—so shoot us.  Mr. Cheney I don’t mean that literally of course.

 

And no, it’s not a mistake.  I have talked on the phone during almost every State of the Union Address the President has given.  If they check everyone else’s phone bills, they will probably find that is the heaviest talk time in America since nothing is on television during that time.  And when looking closely they will notice that the increased percentage of those talking on the phone during the State of the Union should inversely correlate directly to the President’s declining poll numbers.

 

If the administration truly wanted to help the American people, they would take all this newfound information and use it to enforce the federal Do Not Call list.

 

There is one benefit to this invasion of our privacy however; a complete scouring of all of our phone records will prove once and for all that we DON’T watch American Idol.

 

And as far as the comments that I have been known to make on the phone about this administration being completely inept, basically corrupt and morally bankrupt—I stand by them all.  This latest revelation just proves how right I was.

 

Copyright Ó 2006, 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll

There’s More To A Fair Death Penalty Than Science

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

From 2004 Archives

 

Science isn’t all that is needed for an equitable death penalty.  For the sake of brevity, I will not address the moral issues here just the ones dealing with equity and justice.

 

What good is science if EVERY defendant doesn’t have the resources necessary to defend themselves properly? 

 

EVERY defendant deserves the SAME quality of defense that the wealthy receive.  They need to be able to hire top-notch lawyers, detectives, consultants and expert witnesses of their own.

 

EVERY defendant deserves the SAME access to resources to run their own forensic tests in order to achieve the true parity that our justice system is supposed to represent.

 

EVERY defendant deserves the SAME presumption of innocence, regardless of race, gender, economic status or religion.

 

EVERY suspect deserves to be apprehended based on the SAME burden of facts; not misguided supposition based on a demographic profile.

 

The issue of the media sensationalizing cases and over-covering events, which contaminates the potential jury pool, also needs to be addressed.  The only way to get a jury that hasn’t been exposed, at least subliminally to these exploitative news reports; is to find someone who doesn’t read any newspapers or magazines, watch news on television, listen to radio news or talk shows or speak with people in the cafeteria at work, at children’s activities or other social events.  Most of us wouldn’t consider these isolated and uninformed people to be a jury of our PEERS.

 

Just because the test says the DNA matches, it doesn’t answer the questions of how the DNA got there, whether it was accurately interpreted, accidentally damaged, deliberately tampered with, etc.

 

Additionally, it is a known fact that many eyewitness accounts are incorrect due to the stress of the moment or deficiencies in the average person’s observational abilities.  Due to this, they shouldn’t be overly relied on, but very often they are.

 

These are some of the reasons I am opposed to the death penalty.  The entire system needs fixing, not just the science.

 

Our justice system is supposed to be based on rules of law and assure JUSTICE FOR ALL.  Until all of the above issues are addressed, all the DNA analysis in the world isn’t going to guarantee a fair, equitable and foolproof death penalty.

 

Copyright Ó  2004, 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll 

It’s Not Whining, It’s Cries For Help

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

 

 

Former Texas Senator Phil Gramm finally crossed all lines of humanity and reality when he accused people suffering from our nation’s economic troubles of “whining” about their plight.  While claiming that the nation’s economic problems are not reality but are just in our minds, John McCain’s previously reported choice for Secretary of the Treasury, a man McCain has said, “knows more about economics” than anyone else in the country, showed utter ignorance and insensitivity with the statement he made to the Washington Times.

 

Mr. Gramm, we’re not economic hypochondriacs when we tell you that it costs $80.00 to fill the same gas tank that $37.00 used to fill.

 

The 438,000 Americans who lost their jobs in the first six months of this year are not imagining their unemployment, they’re enduring it.

 

The mother feeling guilty because she can not afford shoes to replace the ones her two year-old has out grown and is watching his gait change as a result isn’t imagining the blisters on her son’s feet.

 

The eight year-old who doesn’t get a school lunch or breakfast in the summer who says she’s hungry because there is little food in her home because her parents need their cash to fuel their car to get back-and-forth from their three jobs, isn’t whining, she’s crying out for help.

 

When Meals on Wheels Directors from all over the country articulate the multiple financial problems cause by the economy that are threatening the program that provide critical life-services to elderly shut-ins, that’s not whining Mr.Gramm,  it’s cries for help.

 

When mothers tell you they find themselves forced to buy more unhealthy processed foods for their developing toddlers because fresh fruit and vegetables are too expensive, they’re not whining, they’re crying out for help.

 

And their friends and neighbors are not whining when they tell you they have had to cut their children’s milk intake in half because the $5.00 a gallon price is more than they can afford. Those are anguished cries for help.

 

The families who have never missed a rent payment and are being evicted and tossed out on to the street without refund of their last month’s rent or security deposit because their landlord was foreclosed on,  and are now unable to secure other housing without those deposits are not whining, they’re crying out for help.

 

When senior citizens report that they are being forced to choose between filling their prescriptions, gas tanks or grocery baskets, they’re not whining, they’re crying out for help.

 

Mr. Gramm are your ears so callused from years of privilege in the US Senate with a generous pension and the best health plan in the world that you can’t hear these cries?  When sincere and humbling pleas for help are interpreted as whining there can only be two reasons and both are medical; one a hearing problem the other would be not having a heart.  Which is your problem Mr. Gramm?  I promise if you tell me, I won’t accuse you of whining.

 

Copyright Ó 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll 

 

 

 

Portion Distortion, Food For Thought

By:  Cheryl Tully Stoll

 

What a distorted world we live in.

 

My husband and I recently went out for dinner and left the restaurant feeling very guilty.  The guilt wasn’t from the excessive calories consumed; though it should have been.  It wasn’t from the extravagance of dining out in a bad economy; we’re among the fortunate who are blessed that we can still do so.  Our guilt was from something far more serious.

 

We left the restaurant horrified by the amount of food that was thrown away after our simple meal—one appetizer—a shared salad and a shared entree.

 

We’ve been to dining establishments with large portions before.  These days, that’s nothing new.  The bigger is better philosophy seems to go directly from our plates to our waist lines.  However, we have never been to a restaurant with portions so genuinely disgusting in size that villages in third-world countries could have been fed for days from one dish.  A restaurant with tables for two where many guests do not have the option of bringing food home with them should not serve a side order of ziti that is a full TWO POUNDS in weight. 

 

The order of chicken parmesan that we shared was hideously large and enough to feed a family of four comfortably and our mixed greens salad could have satisfied grazing cows for more than a week.

 

The sheer waste of food was appalling.  My husband ordered a fried calamari appetizer that was so large that an entire family of squid must have sacrificed their lives for that one dish.  When it rapidly became apparent that the majority of calamari would go to waste and was still warm, we gave it to a table of ten women sitting next to us.  During the brief time we were there, the table of ladies next to us had offers of several pasta dishes and an additional calamari order from other guilt-laden patrons.

 

When we inquired if we could have half an order explaining that we were willing to pay the full price, we were rebuffed.  Additionally, according to health rules, the kitchen staff isn’t allowed to eat food from serving platters that have been untouched by patrons.  Then again if they were, after what we saw in that establishment that evening, the kitchen crew would be so morbidly obese they wouldn’t be able to fit into the kitchen.

 

It’s no wonder that European tourists who visit the United States are disgusted by our food portion sizes.

 

In a day-and-age when people have to choose between putting gas in their cars or buying food for their families, this type of business practice is utterly obscene.  This one restaurant must literally waste TONS of food on any given day.  Food that could help children who during summer months have no access to Federally subsidized school lunches or breakfasts and don’t get even one balanced meal most days of the week.  The excess could also feed senior citizens, who; having worked, sacrificed and saved their entire lives for a modicum of security in their older years now find themselves in the unconscionable situation of having to decide whether to fill their prescriptions, gas tanks or grocery baskets.

 

There is no way that we will be able to mandate a social conscience for business owners.  However, each of us can use our own conscience and stop frequenting establishments that encourage life-threatening obesity with their portion sizes or blatantly waste a precious commodity that is so desperately needed by so many of our fellow human beings.

 

In this country money talks and if we speak with our dollars and have discussions with the staff of these establishments telling them why we will not be returning, it could be a first step in reigning in the avarice of excess.  It doesn’t matter how good the meal is when most of it ends up in the trash.

Copyright Ó 2008 by Cheryl Tully Stoll